Go Air Flight Schedule - I Was 44 When I Had My Beautiful Daughter What About Those Dismal 'Pregnancy Over 40' Statistics?

And bingo, they get little lax with their birth control, many women in their 40's think their too old to get pregnant! What about the fact that the number of unintended pregnancies in women between 40 and 44 is second only to teenagers? Statistics are for statisticians, as far as I'm concerned. The pregnancy statistics over 40 are dismal, i know you've heard it all before, oK.

And your chances of having a baby are less than your chances of winning the lottery, you'll have a hard time getting employed, you'll be replaced by a trophy wife, the message is you'll need plastic surgery. Now it's more like 35), our society and media is so 'age obsessed' that women begin to believe their life is over at the age of 40 (heck. I think we'd all be surprised. I wonder what would happen to those statistics if all women over 40 tried to get pregnant. I would venture to guess most women over 40 aren't trying to get pregnant (and many have had sterilization procedures).

I remember babysitting my niece and nephew when I was in my 20's - it wasn't any easier back then, as a matter of fact. I'm keeping up just fine, and even though my very active daughter wears me out occasionally, " I'm in the best shape of my life. "Are you having another, i've been asked more than once, as a matter of fact? Nobody's asked me if I'm her grandmother, but so far, i'm the oldest mom at the playground, yes. I had a normal pregnancy and normal delivery and I conceived without fertility treatments. Is perfect, in my totally unbiased opinion, i was 44 when I had my daughter who. But it wasn't by luck, i won the lottery, as far as I'm concerned.

" "She's such a happy little girl, the comment I hear most often is. And I'm behind her no matter what path she takes, it's her life. I'm not trying to live my dreams through her, since I've already accomplished everything I wanted to do in my life. I have no hidden agendas for my daughter. And totally skilled at dealing with the trials and tribulations of a two-year-old, more patient, i'm wiser. Being an 'older' mom is such a blessing.

I notified my doctor that I was moving on to 'childfree'. I became disillusioned with the assembly line practice of my fertility clinic and the amount of drugs and hormones I was pumping into my system was totally inconsistent with my 'all natural' way of life and personal philosophy. And the IVF's ended in miscarriage and the removal of my left fallopian tube, the medications and inseminations didn't work at all. Inseminations and IVF twice, i spent over two years trying medications. We went in for fertility treatments, after a year of trying on our own. I waited until I was almost 37 to get married and didn't even start trying to get pregnant until I was almost 38, as a result. I grew up with parents who were totally mismatched leaving me with a negative impression of marriage and family. My own childhood was less than perfect. I will admit I had an interesting journey to parenthood.

I couldn't get away from it! And both my grandmothers were in their 40's when they had their last child, i started researching my own family history. I was standing in the ski lift line and some teenagers behind us were laughing that their mom was going to have another baby at the age of 43. A local radio personality said his mother had him at the age of 48 (before the days of fertility treatments). A tenant in our rental property all of a sudden tells me she gave birth to her son at the age of 45, i met a woman at my niece's graduation party who gave birth to triplets at the age of 45 (without fertility treatments). I would hear yet another story of a woman giving birth in her 40's, no matter where I went or who I talked to, i was over 40 at this point and as if to spur me on.

And I changed my 'pregnancy mindset' through visualization and meditation, increasing pelvic circulation, i also researched natural methods of balancing hormones. And I went back and confronted all the unresolved issues I had with my parents and my less-than-perfect upbringing, i started a totally new way of eating, i quit a high stress job. I started researching natural methods to enhance fertility. I realized I wasn't ready to give up on getting pregnant but I absolutely did not want to go through anymore fertility treatments.

I continued researching natural methods to enhance my fertility and I continued adding things to my 'getting pregnant' protocol, more motivated than ever, now. I was ecstatic to finally know I could get pregnant on my own, even though my miscarriage was heartbreaking. I was miscarrying by the time I realized I was pregnant, unfortunately. I was shocked when I became pregnant naturally just months after completing fertility treatments.

I reluctantly decided that it was really time to move on to childfree and get on with my life. My baby was out there but I couldn't get to her. And still childless, almost 44, but here I was, i was so sure I was going to have a baby. I thought maybe my 'internal barometer' was broken. I almost gave up, when I was 43 and 11 months, but. I needed to give her life. I could feel my baby hovering over me. Even though I was now 43 years old, i continued trying to get pregnant. It was a blessing", "Something was probably wrong, so much for the well-meaning condolences. My baby was chromosomally normal; and wouldn't you know it, c, i had the fetal tissue examined after a D&. Why was this happening? But miscarried both, i got pregnant two more times, to make a long story short.

This one was going to make it. My ultrasound looked great! He was bouncing off the walls with excitement, when I finally did see my doctor (one who was quite negative about women in their 40's getting pregnant)! I didn't want a 'blow by blow' accounting of my hCG numbers or a depressing speech about the risks of pregnancy at my age. We decided not to tell anyone or to see a doctor until any 'normal' person would. I was cautious but excited nonetheless. I guess preparedness finally met opportunity (I think I was the healthiest human being on the planet by then). Pregnant again, and here I was, i was a little angry that I finally made a firm decision to move on to childfree! Two weeks later I found out I was pregnant.

I can't tell you how many times I read that if you're in your late 30's or 40's you should "run not walk" to the closest fertility clinic because time's running out fast! I partially blame those over-quoted statistics. And I would have had both my fallopian tubes essentially doubling my chances of getting pregnant naturally, 000 in fertility treatments, $25, i would have saved myself years of frustration, if I would have started my 'all natural' pregnancy protocol earlier. There's a higher incidence of tubal pregnancies with IVF and I'm sure all those injections of drugs and hormones threw the delicate balance of my reproductive system further out of whack. Fertility treatments were probably the most detrimental factor working against me, but. I'm sure many doctors would use my story as an example of how difficult it is to have a child over 40. You probably can, if you know deep in your heart that you can do something. The moral of my story is "trust your instincts".

" "What are the odds of that, i'd like to ask, for all you statisticians out there, so? The bottom line is I overcame all of my challenges and succeeded naturally at the age of 44.

Copyright 2005 Sandy Robertson